“Want to make God laugh, tell him your intentions“, — says the proverb. Indeed, sometimes even elaborate, “faithful” frustrated Outlook due to unforeseen circumstances. Or… the man himself refuses planned. It turns out that in the last century this paradox became interested in the attention of numerous researchers.
It would seem that something has planned to buy a car or house, go on holiday abroad, to marry, to start a business), it is logical to tell about it to friends, that they supported us and cheered for us. But back in 1933 foreign psychologists have learned that the more people we tell about our own plans, the less likely that they will be implemented.
The what’s the matter? If we talk about their intentions beforehand, it is in our subconscious mind becomes an established precedent, says researcher Vera Mahler. And if the goal subconsciously reached, therefore, the individual is less motivation.
Professor of psychology at new York University Peter Gollwitzer touched on this subject back in 1982 in his book “Symbolic self-filling“. Not so long ago, he conducted a series of studies, which were attended by 63 people. It turns out that people who have not shared their intentions with others, fulfill their more likely than those who spoke publicly about them, and received the approval and support of others.
Professor Gollwitzer believes that the story about his own plans makes us “premature closure“. In our brain there are so-called “symbols of identity“, which helps us to create a concept of themselves. To this symbol appeared, not only action, but just talking about them. Suppose You told about your plan to write a thesis and presented yourself as a candidate or doctor of Sciences. The brain was satisfied with the play of the imagination, and You disappear impetus to do something to achieve this goal is to attend graduate school, to find a scientific leader, to sit in the library, collecting material, and so on.
So dream alone, think about implementing your own dreams, visualize the result, but do not tell me about it, let everyone know when your dream will come true!
don’t forget that dreams come true, so let them come true for You!